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Maria & Daniel’s snowed-in gothic burlesque wedding

At a Glance

When you’re gamers, metalheads, and all-around cool people, you can make an equally cool wedding with gothic details, a lovely black gown, and burlesque performers. But this pair also had to deal with mountains of snow keeping their guests trapped at home! Good thing they knew how to live stream it all from their laptop. Technology saves the day!

With the holidays upon us, we are focusing on the snowiest and most cheerful parties of the season. Cuddle up with some cocoa and enjoy these winter-themed weddings.

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The Offbeat Bride: Maria, transport operator

Her offbeat partner: Daniel, enterprise architect

Our offbeat wedding at a glance: Manchester Christmas Markets and reception at Stockport Masonic Guild Hall — December 18, 2010

What made our wedding offbeat: From the outset, our wedding was never going to be traditional as we aren’t a particularly traditional couple. We like metal music, gaming (especially Black Ops), and having an alternative lifestyle. This was reflected very much in a lot of choices for the day.

 
 
Examples of this would be:

  • No dress code for guests or wedding party
  • A black gothic wedding dress, a rabbit skull fascinator, Doc Marten boots, and a bouquet of silk red and black PVC roses within black feathers
  • A semi 1920s ringmaster-style suit for the groom (with snake-headed cane)
  • The Tim Burton-themed cake
  • Daniel’s band making a tremendous racket at the reception

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Our friends who perform burlesque provided their entertainment, including glass walking. We ended the night with drunken karaoke, which finished off the entertainment for better or for worse, depending on your ears. Our friend Mark made beautiful invites which parodied us as sugar skull characters.

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Tell us about the ceremony: We wanted the ceremony to be personal to us and not just the standard vows that are required by law. We included Call of Duty, sharing the PS3 controller, warming the house before I come home, and feeding the groom (who can’t cook!). There was a lot of laughter.

I walked down the aisle to Machine Head and we walked back up the aisle to the Batman Returns finale.

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The ceremony was broadcasted online (via ustream) from a laptop. Over 45 guests were able to watch the ceremony (and hear it!) including my mother, who was too unwell to attend in person.

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Our biggest challenge: We lost two out of three bridesmaids 24 hours before the wedding due to personal issues. We asked some good friends to step in and they did an amazing job.

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Our next biggest challenge was heavy snow, which kept over 60% of our guests away as they were snowed into their homes! Our wedding was besieged with several metres two days prior. We moved the reception to the smaller of two rooms on the day, and this meant the guests who could make it had a more intimate experience. The rest were able to watch via the live stream.

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My funniest moment: Walking down the aisle to our song: “Imperium” by Machine Head. It started very quietly and our unprepared guests were not expecting huge, distorted guitars to kick in as the bride was halfway down the aisle.

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Also, during our vows, we pulled out iPhones (mine was in my cleavage!) to read our personal vows.

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My advice for Offbeat Brides: Don’t worry near the day about the little things. They are the little things and only you will actually notice them. Don’t let that cloud your mind and make you forget the reason for the day itself.

Make sure your third-party vendors have written down what their service is and what they are providing. Our limo company changed our arrangements on the day which caused major problems after the ceremony.

Whatever your budget is, add 10%!

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19 responses to “Maria & Daniel’s snowed-in gothic burlesque wedding”

  1. Jennifer Avatar
    Jennifer

    Your cake looks too pretty to eat! And your dress is really gorgeous. Congratulations!

    1. maria Avatar
      maria

      Thank you, we didn’t want to cut into it either , but it was certainly worth it when we did 🙂

  2. gealltanas Avatar
    gealltanas

    “Whatever your budget is, add 10%!”

    This may be some of the most sensible advice ever. Congratulations on your wonderful wedding – you looked beautiful.

  3. Raz Avatar
    Raz

    That is so sweet that you broadcasted it live for your mom.

  4. Christine Avatar

    What a cool wedding; love the style and the wintery setting. Looks like they have a lot of stylish friends too!

  5. vacantmuse Avatar
    vacantmuse

    wedding Docs! Ustream! couple after my own heart, there <3

  6. Chris Avatar
    Chris

    Maria – I still have the beetle juice from the above cake!!! 😉 xx

    1. Maria Avatar
      Maria

      Aw that’s awesome we still have the topper and jack and Sally – keep meaning to varnish them 🙂

  7. Eve Avatar
    Eve

    I was there in the photos and it was a wonderful if not cold and icy day! Maria looked beautiful and Dan looked dapper in his suit and top hat… I was trying to hold back the tears during the vows and it was such a wonderfully romantic day. Maria and Dan make the most fantastic couple and I wish them all the happiness in the world xxxx

  8. Katherine Avatar
    Katherine

    Love love love the Beetlejuice cake and the black wedding gown!! Yay for black wedding gowns! Congratulations and best wishes to beautiful and happy couple.

    1. nikki626 Avatar
      nikki626

      ^^^this.

  9. Ginny Avatar

    Oh wow, this is gorgeous! The iPhone comment made me giggle out loud 😛

  10. Kelly Avatar
    Kelly

    lol, that’s awesome. My husband also read his vows off his iPhone!

  11. Chrissie Avatar

    I love the idea of using iphones for the vows. We’re iphone nerds, we’ve joked about tweeting during the ceremony, so that would work well!

  12. Hooples Avatar
    Hooples

    Yay Manchester! So nice to see an offbeat bride in North West England! 😀

  13. Ezza Avatar
    Ezza

    This entire wedding is amazing. Maria, you look absolutely phenonmenal. Massive congratulations!

  14. ysabelkid Avatar

    Awesome, awesome wedding! Live-streaming – what a brilliant idea, and one I’ll have to nab, if you don’t mind. And wedding vows on the iPhone just made me chuckle out loud. There’s nothing not to like about this wedding!

  15. mrbothered Avatar
    mrbothered

    A brilliant couple and a fabulous day. All our best wishes.
    PS, I went as ‘aged, jaded hippy.

  16. kc Avatar
    kc

    absolutely beautiful!!! you both look stunning, congrats! xoxo

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