4 things that nobody tells you about getting engaged
I’ve been told my entire life — by movies, books, and trashy reality shows — that your wedding is just a magical event. Well, I’ve been engaged a few months now, and I’m ready for my magical moments to start happening. Getting engaged is pretty much like every other adult situation in your life: no one knows what they are doing and literally everyone is faking that they do. So that future generations don’t succumb to the same delusion that I was blissfully in, I’ve compiled a list of things that nobody tells you about getting engaged.
How do you include the non-tech-savvy into your tech-y wedding?
How do you dealing with the fact that, technology-wise, you are living in the 21st century, but your parents and their friends are not? I’m finding I’m having wedding planning complications with our evites, the online-only registries, and the concept of photo sharing.
Newly-engaged secret: you don’t have to plan it all today!
We KNOW some of you just got engaged, and are now being bombarded with questions: When’s it happening? What setting are you picturing? What’s your theme? How can I help? Have you thought about decor? Can I get you in touch with my baker friend? Your friends and family are asking these questions because they’re excited for you, and want to give you the opportunity to share your own excitement.
When you get peppered with these questions your response, however, may not be excitement… it may be anxiety.
I want NO BRIDAL SHOWER, but my future mother in law won’t let it go
My future mother-in-law has decided that she is throwing me a bridal shower. My wording there is intentional — she did not ask if I wanted one, she did not ask if my bridespeeps were throwing me one (they’re not, because they know I don’t want one), she Just Decided.
For many reasons, I’ve tried to be polite and just say “no thanks,” but she’s insisting.
I have no interest in this event, although I realize that it is very nice of her to offer to throw me one. How do I get out of this?