Why you should embrace your wedding jealousy
About one-and-a-half years into what is shaping up to be a four-year engagement, my future brother-in law proposed to his then-girlfriend. I love these people very, very much, so naturally, I was filled with excitement, happiness, love, and… jealousy? I was filled with guilt about my reactions. It ate into me, and fighting them caused me hours of anxiety. It got to a point where the positive emotions I did feel were getting blotted out. So, I just gave in to my jealousy. I embraced the emotion and allowed myself to fully experience it…
Male wedding privilege as seen from a transgender groom’s perspective
I have been thinking about the weird privilege I’ve held as the male-presenting person in this relationship. I believe this is because people want to honor my identity and respect my maleness, yet it feels uncomfortable and untrue… because it erases the fact that those images don’t actually fit our queer relationship, and they don’t include my trans-ness.
Psychology Today: Fighting the Unhealthy Cultural Push for Wedding Weight Loss
I’ve written in the past about the pressure put on so many brides to lose weight for their weddings (and how I suggest people handle it). I love that Psychology Today is now tackling this sticky subject with their article, Fighting the Unhealthy Cultural Push for Wedding Weight Loss…
The end of marriage as we know it, or: Why I won’t be making it legal
We do not currently live together, we have three cats between us, only one of us (me) has US citizenship, oh and she doesn’t fly… During those many anxious months, we were often asked if we’d get married so that she could immigrate. Every time it came up I had such vehemently negative response. I recognize that at some point I may have to sign papers, because the state has a nasty way of making itself necessary. But I’d prefer not to and I plan to avoid it if at all possible, and here’s why…