Why I’m not hiding my disability at my wedding
I’ve often been told that I shouldn’t think of myself as being disabled, that I shouldn’t describe myself as a “wheelchair user,” or even that I’m not really disabled. I have great respect and love for some of the people who’ve told me these things, but I think they’re wrong. This is exactly why I won’t be hiding my disability on my wedding day.
Say goodbye to your old name and welcome the new with a “name burning”
I decided I want to do a name burning. I don’t mean name burning as if I am taking things with my last name and burning them like a book burning. More like a camp fire — or in our case a lot of candles — and sit around and just chat about who I am. This will let me put the past behind me.
Wedding trend overthinking: Everyone else is doing it!
I started searching online and found all these great ideas: mercury glass candle holders, stacks of books for centerpieces, stationary with those cool old brackets on it, lanterns, library card escort cards — and ran with it. I was so happy that we were doing things that felt like us and not just the same old cookie-cutter wedding stuff that we had seen throughout our twenties. It felt amazing. Until we realized that everyone else was doing it, too.
Lewd jokes & late nights: How to redefine what “married lady” means
I still don’t think it has sunk in that I’m married. People say I am a wife now, and suddenly everyone is treating me differently and I don’t like it. I love the idea of being married. I love calling him my husband. But now I’m expected to act in a manner that just isn’t me… and I hate it. How can I deal with people’s expectations about who I am now that I’m married?