How divorce has positively affected my wedding planning
My parents and my future husband are all divorced. And this is probably going to sound like a really odd, coming from someone planning her first, and hopefully only wedding. But I wanted to share some thoughts I had on how divorce has, in fact, positively affected my wedding planning process.
The joy of NO: What offbeat-types can teach you about saying “no,” even to yourself
Being on the wild end of the offbeat spectrum does confer certain disadvantages and benefits. You’ve gotten really good at deflecting or ignoring criticism, maintaining internalized self worth, and just generally saying NO. NO to feeling bad about yourself, NO to apologizing for your choices, NO to altering your life to suit the preferences of others. NO is a goddamn survival skill. This is fucking invaluable as shit when wedding planning.
Our elopement that people were invited to attend: re-thinking what “eloping” means
Our elopement was attended by 60 people… 60 people who were all invited. That’s not an elopement you say? I say, well then maybe it’s time to change your definition of elopement! It might actually make your wedding planning way less stressful.
My Nigerian engagement ceremony bridentity crisis
I’m generally of the belief that your wedding is not always about you, but it should reflect you: your beliefs, your values, and your community. But how could I feel good about a ceremony where I didn’t feel like myself and nothing else felt like me either? In the end, it was really been a two-step process…